Happy birthday …

Happy birthday to me! :)  This morning I was awakened early to go outside and see the stars.  I found Orion using a new SKyMap App that was amazing.

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It was so nice to lay outside and stare up at the stars.  As the sun began to rise we encountered one of the longest shooting stars I have seen in my life.  It must have lasted about 3 seconds.  It began below Venus and went towards a neighboring star.  It was incredible!  Usually by the time you see them they have already burned out, but this one, we stared at head on, it began to dim half way through its journey and then it reignited and kept going.  It was the most amazing thing I have ever seen!  After looking it up I found that it was most likely part of the IMO # 149 meteoroid shower that is most active today, September 3rd at 6:00am.  WE happened to be there at just the right time!  :)  

When I was a little girl we used to lay in the yard in Wyoming and stare up at the sky and watch the night sky.  It was always sprayed with twinkling lights.  It is one of my fondest memories.  This morning, reminded me of that time in my life and it was wonderful!

Note to self:  Look at the stars more often.  

 

Today marks the…

Today marks the eve of my 29th birthday!  Looking back I cannot say that I have ever had any idea of where I thought I should have been at this point in my life.  I don’t think that I veer really thought I would make it to this age I guess.  My life always seemed like some romantic tragedy–I wasn’t intended on living this long, or so I always thought.  Maybe at the time it was wishful thinking on my part at that time in my life.  

It wasn’t really until the last few recent years that I began to realize that I was not going anywhere, and that the likelihood of my life being cut short by some external force was slim.  This may sounds morbid, but I never looked at myself long term.  And it is not that I did not want to live longer, but it was that I didn’t think it would be meant to be.  

So in the recent years, I have just began to think of myself as a person who will age well into the future.  I began to think about what I wanted accomplished by certain ages and milestones.  This is a good thing I think because I cannot really be disappointed at the fact that I am not where I see many of my friends–married and with kids.  I want these things and I want them sooner rather than later, but I cannot be upset or disillusioned that I have not attained them as of yet.  I have done many other things that having children and a family would not have permitted me to have done.

Now, at the eve of this last year in my 20’s I see a future filled with hope, energy and fulfillment.  It is bright and beckoning to me, meanwhile the door to my past has been firmly closed, locked and the key has been put somewhere that I cannot recall.  I didn’t throw it away because I may need to refer back occasionally throughout my life and remind myself of where I was and what I have become as a result and how it has shaped me into who I am today.  

I am excited to live up this year and enjoy all of the new things and old things I shall encounter.  I feel more energized than ever and cannot wait to take on my goals head on.  I am determined to be accomplished, not that I am not, but more so, and I am determined to keep everything in perspective and stay positive

Time flies so quickly and I cannot believe that tomorrow is my birthday already…

Today I was giv…

Today I was given the daunting task of going boxes of mine that I have not seen in 12 years.  Within these boxes were remnants of my life–detailed records of my middle school and high school years–a time period of my life I have spent the last 12 years trying to forget.  It was difficult and irritating.  As I read each note and written account of my life back then, it amazed me how I could not even pin point in my mind most of the people whom were discussed.  How big of a deal it all must have seemed then, the center of my attention and world, yet now looking back I have no recollection of these people.  I was also amazed at how quickly I forgot the pain I constantly endured, the weakness i consistently exhibited and the lack of direction I had.  As I read on I was disgusted at the way in which the boys in my life spoke to me, of me, at me..and how silly I was to encourage them, listen to them and submit to them.  Funny how these kinds of things bring back so many suppressed thoughts, feelings and memories.  How quickly one forgets.  Forgetting by no means was accidental, it was purposeful and necessary to my survival and sanity.  Sitting on the floor going through this box, my head began to ache, the room became to bright and the nausea set in–from stress, remembrance or just plain disgust I do not know.  I decided to just take the rest of the box, the entire box and its contents and throw it away.  After all, it was me talking about being present and not stuck in the past.  So I think that it is good that I went through this now, at this point in my life, when I am with the most wonderful, loving man I have ever known, moving ahead in my masters studies, and in a good, happy place mentally.  This lingering book from my teens that tainted my 20’s had to be closed and thrown away.  It is not worth re-reading, reliving or remembering–it is in the past and I have moved on and overcome it all. Once it was all tossed out I went to take a nap.  Going through it all was exhausting and it drained me, irritated me and made me mad.  As I lay down trying to fall asleep I thought about my future children–my own if I have any, my niece and nephew, or my kids in my future classroom, and my old self.  What would I tell them, me if I could.  I would tell them that if they make a choice or think of making a choice to make sure to look at things from an outside perspective.  If after doing this, you feel no doubt in your choice, then by all means carry on, but if you do feel doubt, than there is probably a good reason why and you should trust your gut.  And if you find that you come to make a choice and do not want to look at your decision from an outside point of view, then you must evaluate the reason why…most likely it will be because you are afraid that in doing so your decision or choice may change, if this is the case then you already know what the choice you have made is wrong and should not go through with it.  Of course this may sound confusing, and especially for me, I knew the things I did were wrong and didn’t care but I would hope that this may help put some things in perspective at some point in their lives.  

My fear is that the kids I encounter, whether mine or not, will not listen to my advice, as I did not listen to any others advice.  I fear that they may encounter my same dilemmas and circumstances.  I guess I survived and am doing well now, so it is evidence that you can still live a productive full life even after being demeaned and belittled for the sake of fitting in but my life would have become happier and less difficult if I had not had to encounter the barriers I did in my life.  Running through life is much easier, and less exhausting, when you don’t have obstacles to climb that are beyond your ability.  

I hope that if anything I can use my experiences to help, guide and counsel more than a few people that I encounter through my journey in life. 

I do not regret my experiences, actions or circumstances, they have made me who I am today, but I do wish to keep others from experiencing what I had to endure.

Now that this has been discussed I can have some closure and never look for this book again.  It has been relocated onto a shelf high beyond my reach in the very back of my library of thoughts, and now onto my new book which as I write is being created. 

Being present…

Today I deleted a page that I called, for starters.  The reason being is that I need to stop looking back and just look forward.  There is no reason to take account of everything done, accomplished, and experienced when all those things are in the past and not in my present.  I want to try to focus on being present–not in the past, not in the future, near or far, just in the now, this very moment.  I tend to find that I am always either reminiscing or regretting about the past, and/or  anticipating, contemplating or impatiently awaiting whats to come or wishing for something to come of the future, but very rarely am I ever just being–very rarely can I say that I can sit and think about just now, this very moment, without veering off to the past or to the future.  So, that is why I have decided to avoid any talk of the past, and as for not talking about the future, well that is more difficult because that is the only way to set goals and aim towards them.  So an added goal is to become more present and stop thinking always about what is next or what has been and just worry about what is!  (If this makes any sense at all!)

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once amongst the things you only hoped for.”

-Epicurus

 

 

ThirstTees

I found this website today as I was searching for good deed ideas to carry out during my year to 30.  Not that I couldn’t just do everyday nice things, but I wanted to find what others had done just in case I fell short.

This website is called http://www.thirsttees.com/#  and for each shirt you buy it ensures that 1 person will get access to clean water for 25 years!  I thought it was pretty cool and will be buying one myself.

Below is an info-graphic I found on the blog portion of this website.  I found it interesting and eye opening.

Degrees of Thirst

AH!!!

OK so I just registered for Mud Wars!  It is a 5k race with 9 obstacles.  I have never done anything like this before.  I am kind of scared really!  At least I will be doing this with some girlfriends so it will be nice to have it be a group effort.  I just hope I don’t fall on my face!  ha! ha!  It should be a great experience though and will satisfy goal # 12!  Well look at that! Getting stuff done even before I turn 29–why not right?!  This means I have 2 weeks to get my butt in gear, looks like the gym and I will be seeing a lot more of each other!  :)

http://mudwars.org/

The beginning of my to do list…

So today I posted my 1st goal for my 29th year of life–to be kind.  It really should be something that I have been working on but up until recently I would not say that I have been the kindest of people.  It is not an easy thing to do especially because I, I don’t dare say we as to not offend anyone out there, but I am always so wrapped up in all of my daily routines, things I have to do, things I want to do but can’t find the time, and between work, school, watching my niece and nephew and all of my complaining I forget that anyone out there even exists.  It is a horrible thing and I fully admit that at times I am more than a little self-absorbed but c’est la vie!  What can you do?  So as I drove in my car today to school I decided that being kind was a good thing to aspire for–to think of others and to think outside myself.  So on the list–Be Kind!

I am actually happy that I have started this blog 2 months prior to my 29th birthday because I think it will give me the time I need to actually reflect on deeper goals.  Don’t get me wrong I will have plenty of goals listed that hold no deep-rooted life changing meaning or effect but I like that I have the time to think of at least a few really good, character-changing goals.